Love Thyself Finale - The Sweet and the Sour

If you know me personally you know that I take pleasure in taking control of the trajectory of my life. Yet, I am learning that life is a journey that cannot be controlled (the control freak in me testifies here). 

However, there are certain laws that allow us to predict how it may go.

For example, when I throw a ball up in the air, I can almost always predict that it will come down.

The Law of gravity permits me to do so. Also, the Law of Cause and Effect teaches me that anytime I make a decision, I will reap the benefits/consequences of it.

So, if I stand very close to a building, and throw the ball up in the air, I know that there is a less chance of the ball coming down because it can be trapped on the roof.

Knowing this information prior to throwing my ball, provides me with a better understanding of the unpredictable outcome so I can make the most beneficial decision.

Applying this knowledge in our daily lives equips us to handle any situation we find ourselves in.

The Universal Law of Polarity is a great tool we can use in our self love journey.

Understanding that everything in the universe has an equal or exact opposite, can teach us to pause and reflect on both sides of a situation. 

We will experience dualism in life; the hills and the valleys, the good days and the bad days, the fortunes and the misfortunes.

There will be days where we will feel like we are on top of the world, and there are other days where we will not want to get out of bed… both days are perfectly normal! 

The key to overcoming these lows and the in-between is to still love yourself knowing that you are already loved in ALL situations; the good, the bad, and the ugly. Then, giving yourself the love that you deserve.

What does loving ourselves look like in all stages? Showing up! 

Showing up every day to the commitments and plans we have made to ourselves and to others; going to work, or class when you don't feel like it.

Choosing the healthier option instead of the easier option. Choosing to be alone instead of being in an unhealthy friendship/relationship.

Showing up for yourself is easier said than done, especially in the low moments.

I have been in several of those lows where I did not want to go on. These stages are the most crucial parts of our journey because I realized that it was very easy to give up there.

It was also very convenient to make excuses for my mistakes and failures since I rationalized the lies I told myself so I felt better about my situation.

Some lies can sound like this, “this is what I deserve”, “maybe this is the limit of my abilities/capabilities”, or “this is who I am”.

The good news is, there is NO limit to our potential, abilities, and talents. We only limit ourselves when we decide to stay in our comfort zones.

In my journey, I have learned to take a step back from myself in the low moments, become objective and ask myself certain questions that will prompt my reasoning over my emotions.

This enables me to detach from the unpleasant experience momentarily and focus on the goal ahead.

Now, when my brain is in the right headspace, my body follows suit. Our brains cannot decipher imagination from reality, so when we are able create the appropriate space for motivation, it follows suit. 

Here are some questions I ask myself. Feel free to look through my prompts:

https://www.carolineapreku.com/blog/self-evaluation-questions 

We are all unique people from different backgrounds with unique ways we show ourselves love. However we all have basic physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, intellectual, mental, and social needs that have to be met to feel loved.

The Universal Law of Polarity teaches us that life has a dual nature; good times, bad times, and the mundane moments in between.

Let us continue to show up for ourselves, knowing that we will surely reap the fruits of our delayed gratification.

Till we meet again,

Keep the crowns upright, 

and showing up to your life.